Our children’s first experiences of negotiation don’t happen in the sheets; they happen over dolls and toys. It’s a lot better to learn what’s making your needs known and what’s bullying your partner when the question is “do we play school, or alien robot attack.” It’s a lot better, and it’s highly transferable. The kid who thinks, “I have to play the space game that I don’t like because the other kid wants to” is not going to suddenly act differently with a prom date, and the kid who thinks, “anything I do to make them play my game is fair, because what I want is all that’s important” will think exactly like that after prom, too. They will, unless we step up as parents. I don’t believe it’s “helicopter parenting” to talk to our kids about how they play with each other. I believe it’s helicopter parenting to jump in and direct them. That’s counterproductive. Giving them the solution keeps them from ever developing the skills, and it’s the skills that are the point. But neither is a “life is tough on the savannah” approach good for all kids, and talking to them and guiding them about how they interact with their peers has always worked for me.
- Off To College Is Too Late For The Consent Talk | (via brutereason)
i need a cigarette and a long cry about everything
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I only want this with you.
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1) Learn to put on your bracelets and zip up your dresses by yourself. There will be times when you will be alone.
2) Get on a long plane ride. Look out the window. Understand the immensity of our world. Understand your insignificance. Understand your absolute importance.
3) Press the send button. If you don’t say it now, you never will.
4) Do not sneer at happiness or roll your eyes at sadness. Be aware that apathy is not healthy.
5) You are more than the amount of people who want to have sex with you.
6) That pit in your stomach when he doesn’t text you back, it shouldn’t be there. No one should be able to control you like that.
7) Shopping is cathartic. Buy the shoes and deal with one-ply toilet paper for a while.
8) It will get better, but it will never be perfect. Learn to live through the small moments of happiness. When they disappear, remember they will resurface.
9) I promise that cookie will not change anything (except that it will make you smile).
10) Please, please, take care of yourself. You are everything to somebody. You are everything to your self. That alone is enough.
- things to remember, -n.m. (via cateyesandthickthighs)
I go through phases. Somedays I feel like the person I’m supposed to be, and then somedays, I turn into no one at all. There is both me and my silhouette. I hope that on the days you find me and all I am are darkened lines, you still are willing to be near me.
- Mary Kate Teske (via toxuc)
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i let my laundry basket overflow because i like to push my limits in life
If you think about it, this is like super deep because we only see a certain spot of a house from the vlog….that could be a metaphor to represent how we only 5% of a youtubers real life, or 5% of their actual house….
This just shows a different depth than originally thought by all of us. We see what they show us, let’s just hope they show us the real them